DinkyInky wrote:I'm Autistic, and it took most of my life, but you can learn. It's sometimes the only way to survive.
Being a nerd is probably the only thing that helped me survive decades of bullying.
When people listened and learned I wasn't "showing off" and truly understood I did not get some of what goes on, and needed help, I made friends. They helped me learn how to read some of what people show. It's not perfect, but perfection is only for God. Every person on the spectrum is an individual. No two of us are alike. I line up french fries and my son lines up his race cars. I repeat things to people sometimes a hundred times before they tell me I'm doing it...and I might still do it. My son might repeat one thing he's obsessed on, and once you hear it and acknowledge it, he moves on.
He makes an airplane noise when stimming, I'll sway back and forth. We both get/got all A's and B's in everything but social skills. He's extroverted towards women but not men, I'm always introverted. We're both on the spectrum at the very high end.
Oh and kid, just one more thing; if you don't know how every person on the spectrum will behave 1,000%, don't bloody say it. Seriously, don't paint Autism into an impossible corner, otherwise you become the problem I and so many other folks on the spectrum have been fighting for a lifetime. You deserve better, we deserve better.
Going to back ofout of here now before I say something I don't exactly mean.
You are right, I went to far in my final assertion, you can actually work to some degree around your autism, trough therapy you can learn people to read facial expressions to some extent, to manage a lot of the pitfalls including building relationships with people, but it will always be a handicap, and there is no pill or injection that can cure it, you can manage part of it. (I think I was trying to get to the point of there being no magic pill, and ignored the rest)
And I think I know why I forgot, it's probably because I've probably forgone part of the therapy, mine was individual with the therapist, and I decided I didn't want to do the group therapy with others, because my diagnosis came at age 31, and I was pretty set in my nerdy, loner ways, because I was and still am unemployed without friends, and didn't and still don't feel the need to go "out there and meet new people".
But I've also said, nearly each time I posted in topics related to the current story line, that each case of Autism is individual, even if the same basic diagnosis on type and severity is made, the cases will differ, no two cases are the same, hence I used words like "most", "some", "often", "sometimes", I'm not pinning everything down on all people with autism, I'm just using what even a lot of professionals in the field use as the basis, as in
"these combined factors can possibly point to a form of autism" and looking back I probably should have written that out like I do now, in each and every post just for clarity's sake
In the end we are trying to diagnose what seems to be some kind of neurological issue in a fictional character, and everyone is throwing disabilities, syndromes, and possible predator-prey interaction around to try and identify it, I just try bring what I know of my own condition to the table, and reason why it might apply to Atsali.
But I don't feel that trough that reasoning I've painted Autism into an impossible corner, even if I've made an error or two.
Also don't call me kid, I'm 34.
Gyrrakavian wrote:I don't suppose you happen to have also experienced a very distraught person(s) (that you barely know) seeking emotional comfort from you at a a funeral?
It happened to me at the last two funerals I went to.
Nope, can't help you there, I can empathize somewhat because I got very sad at my grandfather's funeral several years back, because he and I were close, but to have strangers seeking emotion comfort from me hasn't actually happened to me.
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