A Silent Key
Posted: Mon Apr 11, 2016 11:52 pm
I've had better Mondays.
This afternoon, just before I was about to head out for dinner, my email system hit me with several alerts... a direct email, and a voicemail... both bearing the sort of news I really didn't want to hear. A friend lies dying.
Jerry's a guy I've known for over a decade... one of the best, most giving people I've ever met. He's my "boss" in a way... the amateur radio "Emergency Coordinator" for my city's group of volunteers... a tireless organizer, teacher, recruiter of new hams and CERT volunteers throughout the city. Tomorrow would have been his 75th birthday.
He felt ill this morning, called 911, was rushed to the local hospital, and then faded out of consciousness. The ER doctors did a scan and found that he had suffered a massive cerebral hemorrhage towards the back of his brain... and there was nothing they could do for him except keep him comfortable. They didn't think he would last very long with that sort of injury. Fortunately they didn't think that he had been, or would be in pain.
By fortunate chance, his brother and family had been in town, visiting him, for several days. They were literally just about to get into the plane home when they got "the call" to come back.
They were with him throughout the day, as a steady parade of police officers, firemen, hams, REACT and CERT volunteers, and fellow church members came by to visit with him. He never did regain consciousness, but maybe on some level he knew how many of the people whose lives he had touched were there for him.
I biked home from work, drove to the hospital, and got there just after 7:00, met his family and signed the guestbook someone had brought, and then just kept quiet vigil with them. Jerry was on a morphine and lorazepam drip, and never exhibited any sign of pain. He was snoring, as if he had sleep apnea. After a while, he stopped for a few moments, snorted once more, and then just lay quietly... and he was gone. His brother got the nurse, who checked and confirmed that his vital signs were gone. It was as gentle a passage as I've ever heard of.
He's going to leave a hell of a big hole in the world. I've been dreading the day this day would come... knew it had to happen someday, but I hoped it would be another decade away in the future.
His sister-in-law told me that Jerry had actually left plans for his memorial service... he's got the music already picked out. If the situation had been less dire I would have laughed out loud... that's just the kind of organized guy he was.
I know I'll miss him a lot. I know it will take a bunch of us, working together, to have any chance to fill his shoes. And, I know I'm not half done with my crying.
Go well, and in peace, Jerry. Ya done good.
This afternoon, just before I was about to head out for dinner, my email system hit me with several alerts... a direct email, and a voicemail... both bearing the sort of news I really didn't want to hear. A friend lies dying.
Jerry's a guy I've known for over a decade... one of the best, most giving people I've ever met. He's my "boss" in a way... the amateur radio "Emergency Coordinator" for my city's group of volunteers... a tireless organizer, teacher, recruiter of new hams and CERT volunteers throughout the city. Tomorrow would have been his 75th birthday.
He felt ill this morning, called 911, was rushed to the local hospital, and then faded out of consciousness. The ER doctors did a scan and found that he had suffered a massive cerebral hemorrhage towards the back of his brain... and there was nothing they could do for him except keep him comfortable. They didn't think he would last very long with that sort of injury. Fortunately they didn't think that he had been, or would be in pain.
By fortunate chance, his brother and family had been in town, visiting him, for several days. They were literally just about to get into the plane home when they got "the call" to come back.
They were with him throughout the day, as a steady parade of police officers, firemen, hams, REACT and CERT volunteers, and fellow church members came by to visit with him. He never did regain consciousness, but maybe on some level he knew how many of the people whose lives he had touched were there for him.
I biked home from work, drove to the hospital, and got there just after 7:00, met his family and signed the guestbook someone had brought, and then just kept quiet vigil with them. Jerry was on a morphine and lorazepam drip, and never exhibited any sign of pain. He was snoring, as if he had sleep apnea. After a while, he stopped for a few moments, snorted once more, and then just lay quietly... and he was gone. His brother got the nurse, who checked and confirmed that his vital signs were gone. It was as gentle a passage as I've ever heard of.
He's going to leave a hell of a big hole in the world. I've been dreading the day this day would come... knew it had to happen someday, but I hoped it would be another decade away in the future.
His sister-in-law told me that Jerry had actually left plans for his memorial service... he's got the music already picked out. If the situation had been less dire I would have laughed out loud... that's just the kind of organized guy he was.
I know I'll miss him a lot. I know it will take a bunch of us, working together, to have any chance to fill his shoes. And, I know I'm not half done with my crying.
Go well, and in peace, Jerry. Ya done good.